Do you know what your Love Language is?
Do you know what your significant other’s Love Language is? What about your friends?
It’s actually rather easy to figure it out, just by interacting with them. At least it has been in my experience: most of my friends are Words of Affirmation or Quality Time…which I suppose makes sense when you consider that those are my two top Languages, too.
Do you know what your significant other’s Love Language is? What about your friends?
It’s actually rather easy to figure it out, just by interacting with them. At least it has been in my experience: most of my friends are Words of Affirmation or Quality Time…which I suppose makes sense when you consider that those are my two top Languages, too.
When I first learned about the Love Languages in college, I scored highest on Physical Touch and Quality Time. A couple years have now elapsed, and of course with experience comes erudition.
My high regard for Quality Time has not changed: I still relish spending one-on-one time with the special people in my life. I also greatly value quality time spent introspectively, having some good ol' "me time." Both are important for personal growth.
As for Words of Affirmation, I have always felt a deep sense of personal satisfaction and self-confidence after engaging in a meaningful conversation or receiving a heartfelt compliment. I also frequently find myself wishing that I knew what people were thinking, particularly about me (don't you? At least occasionally??).
Usually there is a primary Language and a secondary Language, but I think my two Love Languages are pretty interconnected. Spending time with special people is important to me, as is being told that I am special and important to others. I'm pretty sure that everyone likes to know that, but when it's your Love Language the stakes are slightly higher.
I do not consider myself a snoop or a know-it-all (I hope nobody does!), but I do tend to use Quality Time as an opportunity to dig deeper inside a person. I ask a lot of questions, and I like giving advice when it's warranted (Words of Affirmation is the Love Language I use most frequently to give love, too).
All that said, I think our Love Languages are malleable depending on our socio-emotional needs, the same way our personality profiles change depending on those same circumstances. Thus, regardless of which Language expresses your deepest desires,
My high regard for Quality Time has not changed: I still relish spending one-on-one time with the special people in my life. I also greatly value quality time spent introspectively, having some good ol' "me time." Both are important for personal growth.
As for Words of Affirmation, I have always felt a deep sense of personal satisfaction and self-confidence after engaging in a meaningful conversation or receiving a heartfelt compliment. I also frequently find myself wishing that I knew what people were thinking, particularly about me (don't you? At least occasionally??).
Usually there is a primary Language and a secondary Language, but I think my two Love Languages are pretty interconnected. Spending time with special people is important to me, as is being told that I am special and important to others. I'm pretty sure that everyone likes to know that, but when it's your Love Language the stakes are slightly higher.
I do not consider myself a snoop or a know-it-all (I hope nobody does!), but I do tend to use Quality Time as an opportunity to dig deeper inside a person. I ask a lot of questions, and I like giving advice when it's warranted (Words of Affirmation is the Love Language I use most frequently to give love, too).
All that said, I think our Love Languages are malleable depending on our socio-emotional needs, the same way our personality profiles change depending on those same circumstances. Thus, regardless of which Language expresses your deepest desires,
Sometimes you just need to hear “I love you.” (Words of Affirmation)
Sometimes a coffee date with a good friend quenches more than thirst. (Quality Time)
Sometimes a hug speaks louder than words. (Physical Touch)
Sometimes that little favor is seen (and appreciated) as a grand gesture. (Acts of Service)
Sometimes a bouquet of flowers brightens more than just the kitchen table. (Gifts)
Take the test and find out what your Love Language is!!